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When He Says “I love You”

People experience different emotions during the course of a relationship, and this can be one of the most confusing things to come to terms with. So, what happens when the guy you are hanging out with utters those three words and you are just not ready to say them back? Well, you’re not obliged to say it too.

However, you could do the moment a little justice by avoiding these seven responses that could make it seem awkward.

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Thank you

Sure it may be flattering to hear somebody declare that they love you, but this may not be so much of a compliment as you may think. So do not treat it like one. The thank you will not likely be reciprocated with “of course, it’s a pleasure!”.

OK

Wow! He really hit you with a bomb there, didn’t he? You did not see that one coming. A simple OK as a response to somebody telling you their feelings may come across as a lack of appreciation for the moment.

No, you don’t!

First of all, who are you to be disputing the feelings of another human being? Or are you in denial? You would much rather accept that this person really does love YOU and deal with your own feelings around that, than completely deny the situation.

Aw, that’s really cute

Unless your puppy barked something that may have sounded like an “I love you” to your ears, a human being expressing those same words should never be classified as “cute.” you This is likely to embarrass the poor guy and leave him lying in a pool of regret (and maybe a bit of confusion too).

I know you do

Sure you know, but how do you feel? Responding in this way can make you come across as a self-absorbed person because it almost sounds as if you know that everybody loves you and he was bound to be next. I mean, who doesn’t love you, right? Wrong!

I love you too, you’re like a brother to me

Men surely suffer from the confines of the widely feared “friend zone” more than women. In the instance that one of these men takes a brave risk in an attempt to escape this zone, the worst thing you can do is push them right back in. There are more constructive ways of defining the zone without bruising a heart or ruining the friendship.

Silence

So he sent you a WhatsApp message declaring his love. You see it and ignore him. He, on the other hand, is waiting anxiously for your response and notices every single time that you are online, and off, then on again, yet not responding to his message. This will catch up with you eventually and you will have to give an answer at some stage.

Here is the better thing to say…

When a man unexpectedly throws you a curveball with those three words, think about it for a second and if you know for sure that you do not feel the same way, you can say s. If not, let the person know that while you are not ready to return those precious words, you really appreciate it and it means a lot to you that he feels that way. Assure him that when you can sincerely and genuinely return the words with the same depth and meaning, you will not he

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