Starting on a new slate in 2023 means setting up guidelines that will help you overcome some of the hardships life has thrown at you and navigate your way into a more fulfilling life. Speaking to an Expert, Xolani Tshandu shares with us basic life rules to live by according to him.
Xolani Tshandu goes by the name, Coach Tshandu. He is a qualified Neuro-Linguistic Programming practitioner and Life Coach, experienced in Team building, NLP seminars and public speaking, He is a radio broadcaster and has over 20 years experience in helping provide personal and skills development programmes.
Q. Based on 2022, what should people look forward to in 2023?
A. In 2023 -25, there won’t be any difference if you don’t start making the right decisions, already this year there’s positive energy around the world. You can’t just access positivity if you’re negative, you need to learn how to attract positivity by first changing yourself on how to be positive.
How we do that, first, work on your identity, you need to fix what bothers you and what you’re contributing to the world. Whatever bothers you when you fix it, that’s your purpose. Be disciplined and commit to the change.
Q. In a world full of negativity, how should one keep it positive?
A. The only way to be positive is by feeding your mind positivity, start working on your positivity diet plan, the diet is about daily affirmations to feed to your mind. This process does not involve other people because it’s your personal diet.
For example,
- I have something to offer the world
- I am rich
- I have peace in my heart and soul.
Q. In your events you talk a lot about the secret of power, what does this entail?
A. Power entails identity, purpose and discipline.
Q. We are living in uncertain times with a lot of job losses. According to you, is it a good time for a career change?
A. Yes, it’s a good time for a career change especially if your career doesn’t serve a purpose and doesn’t personally help you grow. Don’t feed your fear of moving forward but rather feed with positive outcomes that are linked to your purpose, for example, work on yourself, access the positive power and move towards your purpose.
Q. How should one maintain the balance of choosing themselves without looking selfish?
A. You must always be selfish, you’re feeding the beast in you because sometimes the beast wants you to give or serve to other people for it to be fulfilled, for example, “I can do a seminar aimed at helping people but in the same token the seminar also helps me to grow” When selfish is combined with greed it becomes a negative but when selfishness is alone it becomes a positive, as they say you can’t pour from an empty glass.
Q. Mental illness is a hot topic at the moment, is there a way of avoiding this from happening?
A. Yes, people are mentally ill because of the mindset imbalance, the conscious mindset and the subconscious mindset are not saying the same thing and that causes confusion in the mind that leads to stress which leads to depression.
This results in body aches and body sickness and diseases. The mindset controls the cellular activity that leads to your body not being protected. Once your cellular activity is messed up it loses control of your body.
Fix your surroundings because the people you around with contribute to your anxiety
- Generalising is a problem, fix your problem individually
- People are naturally born positive, it’s the situations and circumstances that they allow into their lives that shapes them.
Q. Is there a way of filling a void?
A. Have a purpose, something that drives you and finding out who you are.
Q. How can one pick up pieces of their lives and start afresh?
You don’t pick up the pieces, you start afresh because some pieces are the ones that contributed to your demise.
Three common quotes you normally tell people to live by:
- Don’t criticize or judge, try to understand
- Do what you believe in and purpose will unfold with you.
- Don’t pay attention to anyone or anything that won’t return the investment or you will find yourself broke or broken.
Also see:Why you should focus on filling up your cup in 2023
