Have you ever wondered if you are giving more than you should in a relationship without your partner reciprocating the same? You are not alone.
Although, relationships are different there are some commonalities that cannot be disputed in terms of stats for example, “in a relationship there are high chances that you might.”
Owner of Creative Counseling Garrette Coan shares with Tv personality and founder of Living Omnimedia Martha Steward, that once you enter a relationship and forget about yourself to please the other, that’s when it starts being unhealthy.
Coan says “every couple should adhere to the 70/30 rule: For the happiest, most harmonious relationship, the pro suggests spending 70% of time together, and 30% apart. That gives each of you enough freedom to explore your own interests while still being rooted and invested in your relationship.”
According to Psychology Today here are top five things you can expect to get from a relationship and give:
Affection – This can be shown either with words, holding hands, forehead kiss, massage or kissing. Either way this carries a relationship.
Compassion – There is no harm in being compassionate to your partner. He or she should be tender with you if you’re in pain. A partner’s not obligated to read your mind, or be “in it” with you. They don’t have to feel the same way you do. It just needs to matter to him or her that you feel bad.”
Respect – This could mean respecting your partner’s boundaries, the manner of which you speak to them or name calling just to say “I was joking.”
Time – This entirely depends on you and how much time you are willing to share with your partner. However, if you only see your partner when it suits them with no consideration whatsoever, Psychology Today says you might ask yourself how much more of your own time you’re willing to spend pursuing them.
Intimacy -Intimacy is not only about sex but getting to know personal details about your partner as well.
Also see: Why scheduling sex is a good idea
