Dealing with a breakup can cause emotional damage but still following your ex after the breakup could be what’s preventing you from moving on.
The no-contact method is a way of healing that ensures that you can move on with your life without wanting to know what your ex-partner is up to.
Very Well Mind hub defines the no-contact method as two former partners who cut off all communication between one another.
In addition to no direct contact with your previous partner, it also means not following up with mutual friends to gather any form of information about their lives,” says Leanna Stockard, LMFT at LifeStance Health to Very Well Mind.
Breeshia Wade, sex and grief coach, recommends utilising the no-contact method to experience and overextend sadness rather than chasing dopamine after a breakup, as both behaviours can be anxiety-inducing and unpleasant.
Clinical psychologist Dr Lauren Cook suggests that this method can help former partners find the closure necessary to move on by eliminating lingering feelings from challenging relationships. Refusing to accept the end of the relationship can make it harder to move on, and living without the ex can be a more effective way to do so.
Next time you think of breaking the no-contact rule try the following tips provided by Very Well Mind:
- Keep a journal and write down your feelings towards the breakup.
- When you are tempted to reach out, discuss your feelings with your close community preferably people who aren’t judgemental.
- Focus on ways that you can rebuild your self-esteem and self-confidence by finding new hobbies.
- After the breakup unfollow and break on all platforms this will ensure that you are not always scrolling on their social media account.
- Introduce solo dates as a way to discover things about yourself you didn’t know, the hub suggests acknowledging the difficulty of avoiding temptation.
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