Motherhood often comes wrapped in glossy images and unspoken rules, always selfless, endlessly patient, and flawlessly loving. However, real-life parenting rarely matches the unrealistic ideals we’re fed. These toxic myths not only add unnecessary pressure but also fuel guilt and self-doubt in mothers everywhere.
It’s time to set the record straight and celebrate the messy, imperfect, and authentic journey of motherhood. Let’s debunk the most damaging myths and embrace what it truly means to be a mom.
Myth: Being a mother comes easily.
Truth- According to Mamas Find Your Voice, the myth of a natural maternal instinct is a toxic one, as many women struggle with motherhood and feel like they need to know something. It is stated that this instinct is largely a myth, as it is learned through doing and takes time to develop. “Being intentional with your mothering and taking the action needed to parent well will stand you in good stead for a lifelong, happy relationship with your child.”
Myth: There’s a specific timeline to getting your normal body back
Truth- The above source continues to mention that before becoming a mother, many women were told that the female body recovers after birth, with women sporting strong abs and bikinis. However, this myth hurts many women and has been difficult to debunk, the publication adds. Women are encouraged to see their bodies for their amazing role in growing and birthing healthy babies and focusing on being proud of themselves. All women’s bodies are different and giving birth is a miracle act and should not be obsessed with appearance.
Myth: Bonding happens instantly.
Truth- Bonding with a child isn’t always instant, and factors like birth journey, mental health, and support can impact personal experiences, claims Happiful. The publication mentions that women who don’t immediately feel a maternal bond may feel ashamed or like something is wrong, but they shouldn’t. Alison Bruce, a child and adolescent psychotherapist, says mothers often experience complicated emotions after giving birth, exacerbated by internal pressure to expect unconditional love.
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