Drawing a line with your girlfriend’s friends
So, you and your partner click and get along like a house on fire, but more often than not, you find yourself reeling and unable to stomach her friends? This could be because you find them annoying or you have absolutely nothing in common with them. This is a common phenomenon, especially among younger couples that haven’t established a close-knit of real friends yet.
Give them the time
Take a few minutes to understand your partner’s friends when they come over. Don’t always opt to lock yourself up in the bedroom or run to hang out with the guys. Yes, you may not want to bore and cramp their vibe being a thorn among the roses, but before you give them their space, make small talks and understand a bit about their lives. Chances are your girlfriend tells you a bit about these friends when you are together, but you will discover a great deal about them beyond any assumptions you had.
Expand your social play ground
As a way to make an effort, suggest a couple’s night out and let your girlfriend’s friends bring their partners. This will expand your social playground and allow you an opportunity to get to know the friends and their partners at a more social and relaxed level. Also, find out a bit more about what they do for a living for some background knowledge before the outing. This will help create a flow of conversation and avoid awkward uncomfortable moments.
Be honest
When your partner needs some time out with her friends, don’t hold her back and never ask her to ditch some of her friends as that would be unfair. However, be honest and open about certain things you may not like about their friends. Do this without blaming or sounding negative towards the friends in question. Besides, you and your partner would be happier with healthy separate social lives.
Learn to compromise
Furthermore, essentially as much as you may not totally like some of her friends, you still want them on your side, particularly if these are long-standing friends that were there before you started dating. So, learn to compromise, as this is one of the key aspects of a successful relationship.
