Ayeye actor and TV presenter Sthembiso ‘SK’ Khoza opens up about fatherhood. 
What has fatherhood taught you?
I’ve learned that you cannot do anything for yourself if you are a father; my children come first and everything I do now, I do for them.
What has raising Ayanda taught you about your second-born, Lelo?
My children are very different, and my fiancé and I have had to raise them differently. I admit that we use to spoil Ayanda; we hardly ever put her down. But we are trying to teach Lelo to be independent and just allow her to be.
What differences have you noticed with your daughters?
Ayanda is energetic and loud, while Lelo is more reserved.
Do you see yourself in any of your children?
Definitely! Both my children are the spitting image of their mother. But Ayanda is just as active as I am and Lelo is calm, just like her mother. 
Your character on Ayeye – Lebo – is all about booze, women and partying. What measures will you take to make sure your children are not influenced by that life?
Ayanda is still too young to be watching me on Ayeye, so we don’t watch such shows with her. I try and surround both of them with positivity and watch exciting kiddies programming on TV.
What do you do with your kids for fun?
We watch a lot of cartoons and do creative activities; from swimming and building puzzles, to making mud pies. I also arrange a lot of play dates for Ayanda and consider restaurants with a play area when we go out.
Are you able to include your family when you’re exercising, seeing that you’re serious about fitness?
I involve Ayanda in my training sometimes; I will do Tae Bo with her and lift her up instead of using weights. Our fitness sessions have become more than just about getting fit; we use the time to bond and have fun together.
Would you encourage your daughters to go into acting?
They have the freedom to do whatever they want. I followed my dreams, even when my parents didn’t understand my career choice.
What challenges do you face as a father and how do you overcome them?
Discipline is my greatest challenge. Growing up I was disciplined in a harsh way, but you can’t do that with the new generation. So I’m trying to find a healthier way to reprimand Ayanda.
What would you like to do differently with your children that your parents did not do with you?
I was not able to speak to my parents about everything, nor could they be there for me in a way that I would have loved. I don’t want that barrier with my children; my wish is to always be their father, mentor and friend.
