With October being the awareness month for pregnancy and infant loss, it is important that we take a moment to acknowledge those little angels who could have been great human beings had they been given a chance.
As a woman who spends months carrying and hoping to meet your tiny new person into the world, your world crushes when they don’t make the time. You go through a whole different level of grief that other people would never understand, however, there are ways suggested by experts that attempt to make the grieving and healing journey a bit bearable.
The Standford Medicine publication mentions that a miscarriage can cause intense emotional reactions, including shock, sadness, guilt, and anxiety. It is stated that men actually may struggle with loss and inadequacy too, especially when unsure about helping their partner. “Allowing yourself to grieve the loss can actually help you come to terms with it in the long run.”
The above source further advises that it’s important to remember that feelings are normal and that some women are hit harder, therefore allow yourself to grieve at your own pace and share your experiences with others. “Joining a support group may help. If your feelings start to interfere with your ability to get along in daily life, or if your sadness doesn’t lessen after a couple of months, talk with your healthcare provider. You might benefit from a referral to a mental health counsellor or therapist.”
It’s essential to seek help from a mental health provider, especially for women with a history of depression or anxiety, states the Georgetown University website. It is further mentioned that self-care, such as hydration, nutrition, exercise, and sleep, is crucial for healthy recovery.
Engaging in physical activities that bring joy or emotional release can also help. The American Pregnancy Association reports that 85% of women who experience a pregnancy loss will have healthy pregnancies, with 75% for women with multiple miscarriages.
Also see: Does grief ever go away or do we learn to live with it?
