Being a strong person who is always there for other people, giving advice and helping everywhere, you are somehow unable to share your vulnerability and your fragile side because you always have to be strong for other people. Having someone in your corner when the need arises does not take away from your confidence and influence.
People will normally compliment you that you’re so tough and so strong, statements that leave little room to express your vulnerabilities and how you feel at that present moment. When someone is opening up and confiding in you, it doesn’t mean step in and try to solve their problem. According to Medical News Today, “It is important not to immediately jump in with unsolicited advice when a person is opening up. They may just want to talk, to process what they are going through.”
Everyone should have what we call a “confidant”, a go to person when everything seems to be disastrous, feeling like you can’t take it anymore, that’s when you need that one person who is always strong for you.
The circle of people you surround yourself with should always be mindful of your feelings. They should also be considerate and thoughtful so that it makes it easy to offload and receive good advice.
In order to accept help by letting others be strong for you, Psychology Today blog states:
- You should check in with yourself at least once a day and ask yourself, what type of support do I need.
- Allow yourself to open up and move past your barriers of pride, self-esteem and judgment.
- With the group of people you have in your corner, identify who can better advise on whatever specific issue you might be dealing with at that present moment.
- Asking for support doesn’t make you weak or less of a person, but helps you look at it from someone else’s perspective.
Also see: World Health Organization reinforces mental health issues at work
