It has been reported by various research studies over the years that there is a great distinction when it comes to gender and suicide.
According to the Verywell Mind online publication, although women are said to be the ones who experience suicidal thoughts more and attempt suicide more, men are the ones who actually die by suicide more.
A lot of factors play a part in men resorting to suicide more than women, Priory, an organisation that offers specialist mental health and addiction support explains a few of these in detail.
Societal roles
Men have always been under pressure from society roles to “man up” for generations. They are often encouraged to be tough, and admitting they’re not okay is a sign of weakness. The above organisation states that men are not encouraged to speak up at all and that this teaching all started when these men were little and were told that boys don’t cry.
Dr Natasha Bijlani, a consultant psychiatrist at Priory Hospital, says “Traditionally, men have been less likely to seek support for mental health issues. This is probably for a number of reasons including stigma and the traditional ‘strong male’ stereotype still prevalent in our society.” Natasha further claims that because of these gender norms, mental health is still stigmatised, which prevents many men from talking about their genuine thoughts or getting the help they need from professionals.
Communication
While women tend to talk more openly about mental health issues, Priory claims that 40% of males have never discussed their difficulties with mental health, even though almost three-quarters of them experience common symptoms like stress, anxiety, or depression. A survey conducted by this organisation reported that, “for four in ten men, it would take thoughts of suicide to compel them to ask for support for their mental health.”
Reasons that prohibit men from voicing out their feelings and mental health issues include, suppressing the issues, fear of embarrassment, not wanting to be a burden, and the stigma associated with mental health in general.
Financial pressures
When men find themselves unable to support and provide for their families, they often feel like failures. According to the BBC, suicide rates rise during economic crises, putting males in more danger if they lose their jobs.
The MedicalNewsToday publication suggested a few ways that people can implement to assist men around them who are battling with suicidal feelings.
Seeking treatment: The above publication mentions that treatment is important for mental health conditions like substance abuse, depression and anxiety, adding that professional help can lessen the likelihood of suicide and treat symptoms of depression.
Taking things slowly: It is suggested that men should not be too hard on themselves, as “suicidal thoughts are temporary, but acting on them may not be.” People who live with men struggling mentally must not put pressure on men to always be their best selves even when they don’t have the capacity to do that.
Building a support system: Building a support network is crucial for individuals struggling with suicidal thoughts and feelings. Research shows that friends and family can be lifesaving in times of crisis. Other potential sources include support groups, places of worship, and community resources.
The South African Society of Psychiatrists urges men to speak up before it’s too late and to debunk the myth that asking for help is “unmanly” or show weakness.
Also see: Men’s mental health: Superheroes needs a helping hand
