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8 reasons you might not be having sex

Lack of a sex drive is a very common problem that affects both men and women. People usually have no idea what causes their low sex drive and how they can change the situation.

By Keletso Modisakeng 

Durex shares reasons you might be having less sex…

1.Medication

Certain medication can have a serious impact on your libido. Check the side effects of any medication you’re taking with your doctor and see if there’s an alternative that has less effects.

2. Hormones

Depending on the time of the month or how much testosterone (the hormone that drives libido) your body is producing, you’ll either want sex less or more. Often, women want more sex when they are ovulating, and people are generally keener for sex first thing in the morning when testosterone peaks. Try having sex in the morning if you’re struggling with a low sex drive.

3. Lack of communication

One of the main reasons your libido might not be what it used to be could be lack of communication with your partner. You need to be open with each about what you want in bed to boost your sex drive.

4. Relationship problems

If you’re unhappy in your relationship, you can always bet that sex won’t be on your priority list. If you’re not happy and your libido has gone out the window, you need to be honest with yourself and talk to your partner.

5. Lack of confidence

If you’re not confident, you’re likely to avoid sex because you’ll be worried about how you are in bed, and if your partner might judge you.

6. Kids

We’ve all heard that kids can kill our libido; and it’s not only because they demand a lot of our time, often leaving us exhausted at the end of the day, but they may also have an impact on our sex drive because we see our roles as changing from lover and partner to parent. It’s important not to let your kids take over your life and relationship. Remember, they came from somewhere, and that somewhere is because you had sex and were intimate!

7. Stress

The more tired and stressed you are, the less likely you want to have sex. Life is stressful, so there will be times things aren’t going exactly the way you want them to. Just don’t let the stresses of life take over your sex life!

8. Boredom

If you’re bored in bed, talk to your partner about how you’re feeling and what you could do to change your routine.

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