There are various was to increase pleasure for you and your partner without being sexual.
According to Catriona you first you need to shift your mindset about what you want from sex and what you take away from each experience. “If you spend all your time focusing on the destination and not the journey, you’ll not only create expectations of each other that could lead to pressure, but you’re also more likely to be disappointed with the outcome,” she says.
Here are the five steps in achieving this:
By: Boitumelo Mmakou
1.Relax:
As cliché as it may sound, being in a relaxed state clears the mind of clutter. In that way, you are more open to enjoying the journey and not just focusing on the destination. And remember, the journey does not have to involve penetration.
2. Be creative:
Explore the body like you would a science project or scrutinise a report that you must submit for work. In the very same way explore your partner’s body as if you are learning it for the first time.
3. Use your five senses:
Touch, smell, taste, sight and hearing; be present as you explore, everything pleasing to the senses will help you connect on an even deeper level.
4. Be sensitive:
Always be aware of your partner’s mental and emotional state.
5. Try other sensual ways to be happy:
Consider erotic or sexy text messages and naughty photos, or even making out like you used to when you were teenagers or in the honeymoon-phase of your relationship.
