Grief, just like healing has no timeline, there is no template as to how to go about the journey of grieving and it is not guaranteed that after a few years, you will be fine and moved on.
This process requires time, patience and self-care, you need to be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to feel all the necessary feelings, at the end of the day, you don’t have to be strong for anyone.
The following are suggested ways that you can try and implement if you’re dealing with the death of a close friend, not that they are absolute but as a means of assisting what you already have going on.
Surround yourself with people: Psychology Today states that you need the support of your loved ones to get through these difficult times, these people include professionals, friends, family, and other individuals you know and trust. “The people you go to for help are your circle of support. They will pick you up when you’re feeling down and remind you that you are a strong person.”
Journal your feelings: “Journaling can be a helpful tool for dealing with difficult feelings, as it allows you to express emotions freely and without fear of judgment,” states Healthline. Additionally, the publication mentions that it can also provide a safe outlet for feelings that others may expect you to keep hidden. “If the written word isn’t your strong point, try an art journal for another way to express yourself.”
Cherish memories: The Dignity Funeral Directors publication mentions that you should not forget your friend just because they passed away, instead remember the good times and hold onto your memories. “That’s their way of being a part of your life now and you need to embrace it. Organise gatherings in their honour and invite your mutual friends to mark important anniversaries and milestones.”
Look after yourself: According to Sue Ryder, “Grief can be exhausting, so it can feel even harder if you don’t look after your physical health.” It is therefore suggested that you make an effort to eat healthily, get enough sleep, and exercise every day, even if leaving the house may require a lot of work, taking a stroll or spending some time outside might make you feel better.
Also see: What happens when you don’t grieve?
