Are you one of those people who love being in love? You are all about romance and when you get a chance to be in a relationship you go head first, the definition of love at first sight? It doesn’t matter to you that you met this person a few hours ago, you already know they’re your soulmate and this happens to you each time you meet a new person in your life.
If this is you, then we need to discuss a few things. There is nothing wrong with you by the way, it’s just that sometimes, things like romantic relationships need to be examined and thought through first before diving in, you know.
There is something referred to by experts as emophilia, it is said to be “The term for a person who falls in love too easily and/or often. This is a persistent trait that lasts across someone’s romantic relationships, not that happens just once,” according to Very Well Mind.
So, not that I am giving you a diagnosis but I would like you to look at these possibilities suggested by different publications considering emophilia and why people would have it.
Dependency on chemical release
The Better Help publication states that the feeling of falling in love can be addictive, releasing dopamine and neurotransmitters to the brain, and leading to physical and mental health benefits. However, it is stated that excessive dependence can lead to unhealthy behaviours such as short-term relationships, infidelity, and risky physical behaviours. “Those who consider love and sex connected might feel loved when they partake in multiple sexual encounters, which may be casual to others but meaningful to them.”
Insecure attachment style
The source mentioned above also believes that people with emophilia have an insecure attachment style, which is a pattern of expressing fear and anxiety in close relationships. It is mentioned that this attachment style can manifest as anxiety, avoidance, or disorganisation, with individuals often seeking intense love without reassurance. “Although insecure attachment can cause conflicts and challenges in relationships, studies show that it is possible to change your attachment style.”
Low self-esteem
“If you don’t like who you are, you may seek out people who make you feel good—at least for a little while,” states Wiki How. This publication also mentions that fear of rejection may lead to pushing away partners and seeking new romances, potentially distracting from personal growth.
Escape from reality
According to the above publication, romantic relationships can serve as a distraction during times of stress, because the chemical reaction of falling in love can make individuals feel good. Therefore, it is mentioned that people would rather feel good all the time than deal with the realities of their stressful lives.
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