You know how it is when you meet someone you really like, or when you finally start talking to that one person you’ve always liked, you get excited (maybe too excited) right? Nothing else matters to you for a while except spending time what this person as they are constantly in your mind.
You might find yourself giving too much of yourself to the person too early, oversharing and maybe throwing yourself at them too soon. That might be your way of flirting, but what if the person doesn’t feel the same way? It because awkward and most of all painful when you realise that the two of you are not on the same page.
Which is why, you should try micro-flirting. What is that you may ask, well, according to Very Well Mind, micro-flirting is a less obvious version of flirting, it uses the same tactics of real flirting but in a more minimal and noninvasive manner.
“In turn, this reduces your risk of being rejected, because you aren’t showing interest in someone in a way that’s as straightforward.” The publication continues to state that the disadvantage of it is that it is not very obvious so there are high chances that someone might not know you are ever trying anything.
So basically, if you micro-flirt and along the way you pick up that the person is not reciprocating the energy, it means they don’t like you back but because you were not obvious that you liked them first, it is a silent rejection that will not hurt that much because I mean, were you even flirting at all, right?
This is how to practise micro-flirting according to relevant publications:
Eye contact: Huff Post states that direct eye contact (not a weird stare though) is a strong way to show attraction, especially in crowded rooms. It is mentioned that the “three-second rule” does the trick. “This is where you look at one person once, look away and then look again all within about three seconds so that both parties can feel that connection.”
Proximity: According to Yahoo News, you need to maintain proximity but not too much, and use open body language and light touch to convey receptiveness and interest, creating an inviting space.
Be attentive: “Make it clear that this person has your attention. In addition to eye contact and engaging in conversation,” states Very Well Mind. The publication also adds that it might be beneficial to demonstrate your memory of previous knowledge about them.
Remember that the aim is not to be too loud about it.
Also see: Here’s why you didn’t get a second date
