“Side chick,” “the other woman,” “homewrecker,” there are many names out there to describe the nightmare that comes with not being the only person your guy is seeing. And the painful reality is, many women who find themselves being side chicks are left in the shadows, never truly knowing if their partner has a relationship established with someone else.
However, fear not ladies as we are here to help you shine and avoid being a victim to the deceit of men.
Here are six signs to tell you that you are the side chick and not his main chick:
He plans and times his visits
If your partner consistently provides you a set day and time for your date. His dynamic personality may explain why he does this, but it is still strange.
In order to balance their relationships with their girlfriends or wives with side chicks, guys who have side girls frequently plan days and times for these activities. So it’s wise to look into it if you think his visits are overly regimented and follow a certain pattern.
Secret date spots
This is the biggest red flag, no doubt! Dating a guy who exclusively takes you on dates to places where few people go or where the crowds are sparse may be an indication that he is either embarrassed to be seen with you or wants to avoid stumbling across someone he knows.
No PDA
What is a relationship without a public display of affection? Although it’s not required for your lover to kiss, embrace, or grab you in front of others, he should take certain actions that let people know you are his.
An illustration would be if you both were having dinner in a restaurant when you reached out and grabbed his hands. If he swiftly takes his hands away and warns you against doing it once more, he is trying to cover something up. And that something may be a girlfriend with whom he is engaged or who is already his wife.
Does not like taking pictures
Do you have a lover who isn’t into selfies or striking a pose?
Although taking pictures does not necessarily prove that you are his girlfriend or just a side chick, however, they do come in handy to prove that you are in fact involved with this person.
When you accuse him of dating you, be aware that he may be laying the groundwork for a denial. Preparing to marry or already have a wife.
Unfortunately, many men avoid taking photos with their side women to keep them from reaching the eyes of social media users, covering up their trail.
He doesn’t pick up your calls.
When you call him, he doesn’t pick up most of the time, and when he does, it’s in the middle of the night with him whispering. So I hope you see where we are going with this.
I have no knowledge of him
Wake up and smell the coffee if you can’t tell your friends anything about your guy other than his name, the kind of car he drives, and perhaps his house.
You better start weighing where you stand on the main chick and side chick scales if your boyfriend reacts defensively whenever you ask about his family and friends in an effort to learn more about him.
Also see: 4 Red flags in yourself to look out for
