At the start of the relationship, you are filled with butterflies and feelings of excitement that you have found the love of your life. But are you really in love, or are you in love with the idea of being in love with this person you have found?
Well, when you are head over heels, the last thing you think about is whether you will ever fall out of love. At first everything is perfect and rosey so no!
Unfortunately, being in love at the beginning of the relationship doesn’t mean you will never fall out of it. Though it’s different for everyone, falling out of love can be just as life-altering as finding out you’re falling in it.
When you eventually do get the feeling that you have fallen out of love, for whatever reason. The time invested into the relationship can make its attempt to force you to stay and work out any negative feelings you have towards your lover, when the love is gone, it’s only a matter of time before you are too.
To help you here is a list of signs by Marriage.com that you are not in love with your partner.
Avoidance or excuses that are combined with dread
You will see yourself constantly questioning yourself, “am I not in love anymore”. You will see how excitement to spend time with your partner turns into dread. There used to be anticipation, initiation of plans, anxious conversations, calls to hang out merely, and an interest in what they were up to each day. Now there’s avoidance and excuses for why you can’t hang out.
Becoming a complainer or being critical is something new
No one loves a complainer, someone that complains all the time about every little thing, it can get quite irritating and annoying.
When it seems as though everything your partner does at this point irritates you. Your poor partner can do nothing right. You find that you’re complaining all the time, which is something new for you but has been happening for some time.
When this happens, interrogate these feelings because you could find that you are no longer in love.
When you feel there’s a need for a break
Generally, when one person finds a need for a break away from the other person to have some “space” or to gain some time to “think about things,” it means that there is a gap in the relationship.
When you truly love your partner, you will never find a need to have a break from them even when you are going through something, instead you will want them closer.
Ultimately, taking this time apart is merely your way of gradually breaking away from the other person without officially calling it a break-up. Once there’s “space,” you’ll find reasons why you can’t see the other person again, leading to the end.
Intimacy is virtually nonexistent
Intimacy is very important in a relationship. Intimacy does not always have to be sex. According to Healthline, there are four types of intimacy namely: emotional, intellectual, physical, experiential and spiritual.
If you find that you’re no longer attracted to your partner, with intimacy being the last thing on your mind, you’re indicating you’re not into your partner anymore.
When you no longer touch your partner, whether it be a simple hug, a hand on their back, you will definitely find sex to be a dreaded chore and these are signs you’re not in love anymore.
Also see: Why scheduling sex is a good idea
