Ladies, while it makes sense to date a guy who is educated, has a job and is financially independent, it’s critical not to make his bank card the main selection criteria.
By: Thiofhi Lambani
Here are a few tips on how to balance between the cash and everything else.
Look for love, not financial breakthrough
We (women) tend to get so obsessed with the job title, the car model and the colour of his bank card that we forget to focus on the characteristics that matter the most in a guy. It is very important to get a guy who will love you, respect your values and stay honest and truthful at all times. He might have all the money in the world, but is he going to make you happy when you leave the mall?
Be your own woman
We all want a guy who will offer to take the bill after a meal at an expensive restaurant, who will offer to get our hair and nails did, or one who will even go to the extent of buying us clothes every now and then. It’s fine to accept all these gifts from your partner but don’t lose self-responsibility in the process; you don’t want him to think you cannot afford yourself or you are dependent on him. If you see the gifts are too many – as hard as this may be – tell him to stop and be in charge of your own financials.
Spoil your man
It is usually labelled ‘uncool’ for a girl to spend money on your man. Well, it’s not! A relationship should never be unevenly weighed in all respect; if he spoils you then spoil him too. If he always takes you out shopping then take him shopping too; don’t get left behind in the olden ways of doing things. There is nothing wrong with spending on someone you love. And for those of us who are not getting spoilt at all, maybe we should start treating ourselves and see if he won’t return the favour.
No secrets
It’s advisable for you and your partner to be open about your financial situations to an extent that you are able to help him when he is in financial need. He can do the same too when you’re broke. It’s no use struggling silently when there is someone who loves you and can help you if you ask.
Don’t be embarrassed to say when you are broke; it is not a financial competition after all – it’s a relationship.
