If you have been in countless relationships and none of them seem to work out, and sometimes for the same or similar reasons, then maybe it’s about time you stopped blaming “men” and start coming to terms with the fact that, the problem could be you.
You refuse to let go of Mr Wrong
Maybe you are in a relationship and you are miserable, but you still hold on in the hope that things will get better, or you are sticking around for the wrong reasons. If you are still with Mr Wrong because you are attached to him, or because he is a convenience to your needs, then you will never be happy. Get out of the wrong relationships, no matter how difficult it is, to allow the right one to find you.
You’re too afraid of making the first move
Most women, since they were very little girls, have been socialised and almost programmed to be polite and conservative and never to come off as eager, especially in relation to the opposite sex. This will make you miss opportunities, some that will only come once in a lifetime. Forget social constructs such as “it’s the man’s job to…” or “he should make the first move…” and go say hi to that cutie you have been eyeing.
You can never compromise
So maybe you have been watching chick flicks and Cinderella movies for as long as you can remember and as a result, you have learned that Mr. Right needs to be handsome, tall, dark (or maybe even yellow-boned) and rich. You never go into a relationship with someone who has less than your ideal qualities. This is also the reason why you are never in a relationship (or why they never last). Ditch the list and give the average guy a chance.
You never go out
So you lock yourself in the house watching reruns of Gossip Girl and Keeping Up With The Kardashians and still wondering why your Chuck Bass or Kanye West hasn’t showed up yet? Get out of the house and meet people. Coffee shops, bars and pubs, as well as braais and any other form of a get-together are perfect ways of meeting new people. If your friend has a cute buddy or cousin you could potentially meet, even better. Meeting guys through people you already know is great because your friends have your best interests at heart and would not introduce you to a jerk.
You’re too busy playing games
So you finally got your friend’s cute cousin to call you and you have gone on a couple of dates, but you don’t want to seem too keen so you only ever answer after the second call. You’ve also put him on a 90-day rule and are always trying to be one-up on him in a conversation. Stop it! Quit the games and just be natural and real. If you feel ready to invite him inside the house after the third date then do so. If you want to call and ask him out for after-work drinks, then do so. After all, you only live once!
