The word “sorry” may be used to express an apology, sympathy or regret, according to the Oxford Dictionary. So why then, do people (mostly women) use this word when they have done nothing wrong or right before they do something right? This behaviour signifies a lack of self-confidence and may even discourage bosses to believe in your potential growth as an employee.
Here are five “apologies” that you need to get rid of in the workplace.
Sorry, but…no
A friend or a colleague may ask for a favour that you are not able to do at that moment. Instead of being upfront and telling them you are not able to do it, you end up saying “sorry, but no”.This can open the door for negotiation and you will start feeling bad for not being able to help. You might end up changing your mind and forcing yourself to carry out the favour. If you are unable to do something or simply do not want to, don’t hesitate – just say NO. No need to be sorry.
Sorry, but you were out of line
If you have been offended by a colleague or even been a victim of office bullying, there is no need to feel sorry about asserting yourself and pointing out an action that was uncalled for. Saying “sorry, but” or “excuse me, but” takes away the stern nature of this statement and serves to justify your assertiveness instead of allowing you to commit to it fully.
Sorry, but I have worked hard for this
It is about time that women in the workplace stopped feeling bad for the things they deserve. If you have worked hard towards a goal and now reaping the rewards, you need not take away from that experience by saying “sorry.” Share your successes in a humble and positive manner. Not only will it make you feel good about yourself, but it will inform those who didn’t already know, that they’re dealing with a confident, self-assured woman.
Sorry, but I need some time off
Keeping up with work and family at the same time can be exhausting and “me-time” can very easily find itself at the bottom of the to-do list. Naturally, women are known to be nurturers and caregivers, which exposes them to the danger of overcommitting and over-exerting themselves. There are times when you will need a break to take care of yourself and it is at this stage that you should be unapologetic and put yourself first.
Sorry, but this is how I feel
Disagreements happen all the time and are in fact good. They remind us of our fundamental differences as people. You should never feel the need to agree with someone when you truly don’t. If you find yourself becoming emotional while stating your point of view, just stop to gather your thoughts, listen to the views of the other person, and in a calm and assured response say “I don’t agree with you”, then continue with your own thoughts and opinion
